Made with love for amazing people like you. Thank goodness I finally listened to what my soul was whispering to me after years of struggle. What hurts the most is not so much the farewell, but knowing that we have been able to do many things better, avoid so many problems…. You didn’t feel a thing. It is going to take more time than I first realized especially because of my two children and soon to be ex husband are the ones that have caused such pain. You need to live with that, I don’t. If I don’t, you won’t let me be, and I can’t heal. What hurts the most is not so much the farewell, but knowing that we could do a lot of things better, avoid so much trouble … and who knows if we will still consider some hope at this moment. Much love to you xo, so immature, what a waste of time reading this, pffff, Hey thanx for your comment Persona. I don’t know what to expect tomorrow or if I will ever meet someone with whom I have to stay. It could be that you chose to be with someone against the advice of your friends and loved ones. I’m a better person since I grew and forgave! It’s not directed at any male. Thank you for so many beautiful moments. At some point I will learn to live with memories, although unfortunately I know it will not be today, nor tomorrow. If a person really loves you, he can't break up with you in such a short period of time. I love you in my life, until never.​​. Iva, I have been struggling with something that happened to me almost thirty years ago. It’s just going out to all of them. Your email address will not be published. For the last 30 years my whole life was lived for only them. 02 Breakup letter to end a relationship with someone who cheated [Name], I am sorry that time and communication has not helped to remove the image of you with someone else from my mind or heart. You flit around on your tippy toes half convinced that you actually are a fairy. Your email address will not be published. Write until you can’t write anymore. Thank you for sharing your healing!! As much as I try to sugarcoat my situation, I still see darkness. Before making a final decision to end the relationship, you should share your concerns or dissatisfactions, and try to work through them as a team. Up to just a few years ago the memories of what happened started to fade. You’re gonna love this one. It’s important to get your self-worth and self-esteem back and a love letter to yourself will do just that!! Thank you for a great letter. I’m gonna talk about why and how to write a forgiveness letter and share a copy of my own for you. love and bless Alex. That guy is not just for her. HI Christina. I had to reread the blog to see what you were talking about. So true!!!! This sucks.). I don’t have room, time, desire, or energy to think about the hurt. Save my name, email, and website in this browser for the next time I comment. Your soul. In my, You Are Amazing mini eBook self-help series I wrote a whole book on forgiveness. thanks for sharing. In this farewell I wish you all the happiness in the world and find the love and happiness you seek and deserve. Of course, you did.eval(ez_write_tag([[250,250],'amazingmemovement_com-mobile-leaderboard-2','ezslot_17',191,'0','0'])); Maybe to this day you still feel kinda bad for what you did. Now I don’t hv problem that she left me n started a new life , but I do hv problem when I imagine her with wrong person. Iva. I send you love for you, not for me. I feel for them deeply. Goodnight and God Bless Thanks for writing yours, because it will help me get started. A childhood friend coworkers managers etc. Breakup Letter. Got no time for that xo I miss that time when we wanted to discover together what we could achieve in the future, in which we began to have intense feelings for each other and it seemed that there was nothing that could end what we were living. Thank you very much. ;), I absolutely love the way you write❤ amazing IVA❤, I related a lot to your letter. I come from a place of peace, love, and forgiveness now. I know that I haven’t written to you much lately, but the events I’ve experienced in the last few months have kept me calm and busy. For a long time I blamed myself for their actions that I caused what happened to happen. This is my thank you for being such a good wife. Read that line again. You tell me you are hurt because I don’t care anymore. I know it was too. This coming from the woman who thought that she couldn’t live or survive without this man. I feel sad for you but there is hope for you. Got no time for that. And that was the biggest hurt of all. If you don’t recognize that you have a part to play in your own break-up, you aren’t going to make different choices in the future. But it hurts me more to think that I will never find a person with so much light, a soul with such harmony, a being with so much life…. If they think you are weak that’s their opinion and it shouldn’t sway you from writing your own healing letter. All the very best to you and your future!!! Love letters to say goodbye. I have no clue. God bless you and keep you strong! Write a letter of your own, read thousands of letters from all over the world or check out the latest on the blog, where we touch on everything to do with break-ups, exes, single life, dating and relationships in general. I firmly believe that it is by the grace of God that I make it through each day yet these feelings I have of hatred, bitterness, hurt , pain, the list goes on, rear their ugly faces. I wonder if you realize the pain you’ve caused or if you’re actually sorry. And blocked them on my phone. BetterHelp.com has amazing therapists worth checking out. You leave and with you all the illusions of my life are gone…. I will print it out and perhaps one day will be able to live by it. You told me that it was the best for both of us, because at this point, we can no longer continue in the same direction. So hard is having to say goodbye. You’re right, we all have been screwed. Thank you. Thank you for lying, cheating, and saying that you would stay knowing that you would leave. He finally walked out on me on my birthday no less. Healing can occur at any time. Maybe you don’t. You are basically healing yourself. Hey Colleen thanx for your comment and reading the blog. I pray that the day comes I can sit down to write such a letter like you have. Wished horrible things on you. I send you forgiveness and love. So be happy. There’s no other way you are going to come to a place of inner peace and self-love until you do this. And it’s going by so fast. just don’t close any door so you’ll find the right person … God bless you xo. I simply can’t stress this enough!! I'm confused right now, and I hardly know what to think. Yup, this is for all of you, any of you, and none of you. :( You are a caring loving selfless soul. The “average” female is so much worse in so many ways. Females are soooo judgmental. She left him the week before the wedding LOL Women can get away with writing these types of things to complain how she was betrayed, hurt, ect. But I am also aware that things have changed enormously and I will not continue to force myself to force things. it's effortlyss. Actually I found quite a few things. I always end up never finishing it and deleting what I did manage to write. For others it would have to be for who they are as a person rather than one thing they ever did, ya know? While trying to get passed that and rediscover me I met and married another man who seems to have picked up where my first husband left off. So to all the ladies afraid to leave or struggling with the should I or shouldn’t I……… Listen to your gut. But I feel none of them got the true me, the true love for they had to deal with my depression, insecurities, ptsd symptoms etc.. (went through counseling) My husband was aware of what happened and loves me so much, i dont understand why, but am thankful for him and love him, but feel he deserves more. Its been a year after the breakup..am still yet to find ground..time to make up and Move on..Thanks again, Thanx Sam. ... break up letter, breakup, broken heart, dating, ... I’m sorry for the hurt you feel/felt but I’m glad you made me (I can’t speak for everyone) feel that we aren’t alone in that. Sometimes he reminds me of me, so stubborn, but he has her, as I had you, to show me with your eyes what mine did not perceive. At some point I will learn to live with memories, although unfortunately I know it will not be today, nor tomorrow. Whoever you are, I want you to know that you have hurt me, but I forgive you. For you know you, and what you know…is real! I love you so much angel of my life that this game has broken my heart so soon…. I don’t really have room in my head anymore to wonder why and how you could be so mean, such a jerk, a thief, a liar, etc. The truth is that I feel I deserve it, because I am hurting you and that is what I would never have wanted. And I will love you a thousand times as I love you right now … And there is nothing that comforts the pain of not having you with me …  I have never suffered so much from being away from someone … And I love you as I have never loved anyone, angel of my heart. What I really want to say is that I'm sorry, I know that you didn't deserve to be hurt like that, and I know that you will find someone who will love you and treat you right, they will make you happy and that person won't hurt you like I did. Hi Karen thank you for your heartfelt comment. Iva Ursano is a retired hairstylist turned badass freelancer, who left behind 52 years of her life in Northern Ontario, Canada for a life of freedom, love and beauty in sunny Guatemala. He never will and that is what is really sad. (this post contains affiliate links so if you make a purchase I make a small commission-affiliate disclosure). I had a million people in my life I needed to forgive.eval(ez_write_tag([[336,280],'amazingmemovement_com-box-4','ezslot_4',185,'0','0'])); If I wanted to move on and have a happier life, it was MANDATORY for me to forgive all those who hurt me so I could move on with my life and leave the pain, past, and hurt all behind. Whether the person did one really unforgivable thing or you’re ready to walk away from a pattern of abusive behavior, sometimes cutting ties with your family member is the best thing you can do for your mental health. I did marry another man and had two children. She then dated a married man with children and destroyed that family only to move to the next married man only to destroy that woman as well. This is your forgiveness letter for you, not for them. I have so many mixed feelings that I can hardly wonder where to start when it comes to saying goodbye. I say goodbye to your kisses that I will always remember even if I can’t have them…. I don’t forgive you because I don’t want to deal with the recognition of your actions. I take each day as it comes and am waiting to let go. I don’t trust like I used to. I wish I had the strength to end it, but I’m a giving and caring person and my now husband is disabled and requires several more surgeries. You made me believe in love, in illusion, in shared dreams, and although I know that our love is not accepted, I cannot help feeling that this is stronger than my love for my family. You were one of the most important people in my life, perhaps the most important so far. Much love for you always! I will not deny that it hurts, because a part of me is still where you are. I know this is all apart of the process I must go through to become the person I am meant to be. In order for your letter … :). Honey that was very bold, risk-taking (in some cases, maybe not yours), and needed for you to write that. Just know that we grow and learn! And it is so painful to have to leave that behind from one day to the next, that sometimes he asked me if it will be worth it to love as I have done, because you should have no doubt how much you have made my heart beat. The letter you write in anger and pain is definitely the letter you should burn in the fireplace. Whatever happens, I wish you the best of luck and I can only tell you that I will remember you. Self love is so hard to realize but once you get it, your whole world changes. Forgiveness is not easy and it’s not for the weak..but it’s so important for our healing. Sounds like the rest of your life is and should be about you!!! I’m not sure where you see that. Maybe you being mean to me was your way of showing me you don’t like me and I just didn’t catch on. And I shared many moments with you, moments that will remain in my heart forever, although I know that what is ours has come here. (adsbygoogle = window.adsbygoogle || []).push({}); Dear You.eval(ez_write_tag([[300,250],'amazingmemovement_com-large-mobile-banner-2','ezslot_2',175,'0','0'])); I know we never talk about the pain and that’s ok. We don’t need to. I spewed out your name. I’ve just come thru a long and painful divorce from a man who cheated, lied, belittled, ignored and hurt our children, still does to some degree! I fell in love, after 20 years of your departure I found love again. Thank you for the hurt and the pain you caused, and for breaking me down so I can build myself back up. But at the sometime I respect your dignity and under no circumstances, I will let you down in … I don't really believe that you would do it to hurt me, either, but I couldn't believe it when Christine told me that you had asked her out and that the two of you went to dinner on Tuesday. :/ I know you will find strength to move on and be happy again :). Now after reading your letter. Everything has ended with love, although my soul hurts, I can no longer be by your side … Giant is my pain, but it would be bigger if we continue with this lie that ruins our lives …. You done that. When my children where old enough I apologized for all they had to go through with my depression etc and explained what happen. Because, here I am, broken, hurt, alone and lost. You have to understand that. And still wonder why I cut them out of my life. xo Better days ahead indeed! This simple letter probably will make you think of someone. Three of those six stand out strong in my mind. I stood you up so many times, and you finally decided you … Sincerely Coleman Adams, Awe I’m so glad this blog helped you a little and thanx for sharing your story Coleman. Of course it won’t!eval(ez_write_tag([[468,60],'amazingmemovement_com-medrectangle-3','ezslot_6',188,'0','0'])); Writing a forgiveness letter is just one way of doing this. And it is so painful to have to leave that behind from one day to another, that sometimes I wondered if it would be worth getting to love as I have done, because you should have no doubt how much you have made my heart beat. Now, I don't think that you had ulterior motives in asking her out. You, my friend, need it the most. I can’t forget her that is for sure . I don’t really care. For the past 6 months, on occasions, I have attempted to write this sort of letter to a female I knew who did bad to me. After all, having to say goodbye is also making me suffer; and I thought I would have the strength to leave with my feelings intact. On this occasion, we offer 3 different farewell letters, with which you can express your feelings at the last moment of a relationship. Since then I’ve been contimplating on the idea of writing the man (ass) who broke me, stoled a part of my happiness, full spirited loving soul. That he will never know what it is like to love and be loved. I can tell through your words and your actions that you are heartbroken. I really don’t give a crap how you feel today. I suppose they are answers that I will take to discover, or that perhaps I will never know. Very powerful letter. Just write it all out. He kissed you with the same surreal brilliance that captivated you so deeply. I never wish ill on anyone, not even ex’s and like you, I am sad that they will never know how to love. Hey Alex thanx for your great comment and for stopping by the blog. Not at all. This letter is for you, not them. You are not to blame for anything that happened. Beyond everything and always together, I love you and miss the love of my life. I forgive you for me, not for you. You can check it out here and grab your copy!eval(ez_write_tag([[728,90],'amazingmemovement_com-medrectangle-4','ezslot_7',172,'0','0'])); After you read my letter of forgiveness, you might like this “open letter to myself”. Even if you fall out of love, you can state this reason because break-up is anyways a sensitive matter. You were one of the most important people in my life, perhaps the most important so far. If you’ve made a mistake and hurt a friend, it can be very tough to reach out and begin making amends. You cheated on me, instead of coming to me with whatever was making you feel unsatisfied. I loved you with my all but yet you hurt me so bad. If you'd like to get in touch, you can email us here, or via post to LTME HQ, PO Box 464 Newtown NSW 2042. And I do not know how to say goodbye without hurting my soul … And I never thought that destiny would separate us so suddenly, and is that living without you will be like dying slowly? Awesomeness! My heart will always be attentive to you… I give it to you today so you know you’ll never be alone in this world…. Write your letter but no need to send it out. I pray that I can move forward quickly rather than later. Thank you for your comment Ramona and glad you enjoyed the article. After reading this, I desperately need to write my own letter to an old boss from hell. But time can be the worst enemy of love, when love is not destined to remain. There is never an easy way to tell someone, “I want to break up.” Even if it isn’t your intention, you never want to hurt the person you love (or used to love).. You left. Don’t you want to be happy? If you recognize yourself in here, well, ya. Days, months,  years even and I found something. Yesterday we thought this was going to last a lifetime, but today I have to go and although I know I’m breaking your heart, I’m not going to ask you to wait for me, because that would be the most selfish of me. Given Below are a few Break up letter samples for a clearer Idea. Without doing that, you never would have that TRUE feeling of release in your body. That will keep me living, since you are part of that engine that moves me. That’s problem #1. Thank you for the tears you made me cry, and for all the times you made me feel like I was not good enough. It is toxic. Right now, you are the embodiment of pure and simple joy. You continued your mean behaviour to me because I let you.eval(ez_write_tag([[250,250],'amazingmemovement_com-leader-2','ezslot_3',192,'0','0'])); I wanted you to like me so bad that I offered up my self worth in replace of your approval. Those three alone are enough to completely destroy just about any woman!! it’s all expressed here so beautifully. I accept it, a part of me wants to do it. Life sure throws us twists and turns. Today I am sad, because I know that I will no longer feel your caresses or your kisses, nor will I listen to all the sweet words that you have always told me. That person took some of the deepest parts of myself with them. If after you have tried forgiving the people who hurt you and you are still desperately struggling with hurt, pain, and anger and you feel your mental health is slipping, please reach out to a professional. I’ve included tips on how to write a forgiveness letter at the end of this article but PLEASE read mine so you get a feel of what they may look like. I … Now the end of one of the most beautiful and painful stages of my life has come, but I don’t regret having lived it with you. Forgiving others doesn’t mean we condone their behaviour. Starting your life over at 30 is one thing but starting over at 57 years old really sucks!! 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